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Scenes From a Broken Hand
Musings on teaching, writing, living, raising children, and whatever else comes to mind
Friday, April 14, 2023
Sunday, March 19, 2023
The Normal Distribution and the Act Like a Man Box
I've been thinking about "manhood" and what it means--or what we think it means--to be a man. I am not a psychologist or a sociologist or any other kind of -ologist qualified to say anything with authority. I’m just a guy, thinking out loud. I'm a guy who has been a man for his whole life, and a father of two men for nearly 23 years. But that's all I am, so...caveat lector.
What I keep thinking about is: what is normal? Statistically (I’m not a statistician), normal
is not a single thing; normal is a distribution around a mean. We’ve all seen
the “bell curve.” To be formal about it, according to this
statistics website:
“The normal distribution is a
continuous probability distribution that is symmetrical around its mean, most
of the observations cluster around the central peak, and the probabilities for
values further away from the mean taper off equally in both directions.”
A “continuous probability distribution” feels very quantum-physics-y
to me in its suggestion that reality is less concrete and fixed that we perceive
it to be—more wave than point, more probability than certainty. (I’m not a physicist—these
are all just the ramblings of a dilettante reader.)
Todd Rose tells some amusing anecdotes, in The End of Average, about times when we have sought an actual individual to
represent the “average” of a set of qualities representing manhood or womanhood.
In both cases, the search came up empty. There was no single person who
represented the mean of all manly or womanly qualities; the pure middle was an
empty set.
Qualities exist across a continuum, and they bunch and
gather around the mean. Imagine a normal distribution of masculine traits and
behaviors, with what we call the very feminine at the left-hand tail and what
we think of as the hyper-macho at the right hand-tail. I’m making this up. Most
of us would bunch and gather around the mean as aggregates of behavior, but if
you isolated particular behaviors, or attitudes, or affects, our individual
scores might be all over the place. That’s what makes us individuals.
That’s what makes us individuals, but we socialize ourselves
and each other pretty hard, as men, not to be all over the place, but rather to
fit snugly inside what Rosalind
Wiseman calls “the Act Like a Man” box. There is one acceptable way to be a
boy or a man—deviate from it at your peril.
We’ve been raised with some pretty hardcore, binary thoughts
about gender and sexuality. “Normal” men are one thing, feel one thing, behave
one way, are attracted in one way to one opposite sex. Anything that deviates
from that “normal” is, by definition, deviant. But the reality is that “normal”
is a cluster of things hovering around a mean, not a singularity where all
things meet. If there is such a thing as mean masculinity, it exists only
because most cases of Actual Men hover around that point, at locations to one side or another of that mid-point it in
equal measure. In other words, not all men are X; some men are a little X+ (meaning to the left of X, not better than X) and
some are a little X- (meaning to the right of X, not lesser than X); some are a LOT X+ and X-.
But what have we men done? We have looked at that
distribution and we have invalidated almost everyone to the left as being dangerously
“faggy” or “gay.” Maybe only the tail; maybe almost all the way up to just
short of the mean. Depends on the generation. But even in our relatively
enlightened times, too many of us live in terror of anything to the left of the
mean, and hope that we, personally, are never tagged as being in that group.
But the extreme right? The extreme right is considered totally safe and viable:
the hyper-macho, the toxic, the brutal—those are all considered reasonably
permissible ways of being a man. So, we don’t just accept the cluster around
the mean—we say “real men” exist at the mean and all the way out to the
furthest extreme of only the right-hand tail, while anything even slightly
to the left of the mean is dangerous and to be shunned.
Remember—the mean, the average, the “normal” would not exist unless there were equal numbers of cases on BOTH sides of it. That’s how distribution works. Which means there are a hell of a lot of us to the left of the mean (in aggregate and also in a variety of individual traits). But we’ve decided to make invisible and untouchable any expression of masculinity in the left-of-X range. Those traits do not exist and must not exist in the Act Like a Man box.
Which is ludicrous, right? Because if the values to the left of the mean disappeared, the mean would shift hard towards the right. By definition. But we like to pretend that nothing to the left of the mean is part of who we are, and we reinforce that idea constantly.
Would gay men, measured alone, fall into the same rough distribution,
or would their mean skew a little to the left? I don’t know.
Would straight men pulled out into a separate group skew a
little to the right? I don’t know.
What I do know—or sense, because, again, I have no expertise
in any of this—is that masculine traits and behaviors among men as a whole follow
something like a normal distribution regardless of sexual preference, and that
all of this—all of it—should be considered a normal and ordinary range of expression
of masculinity.
I wrote
a year ago about how we might be better served by thinking of gender qualities
along a linear continuum—a slider switch rather than an on/off toggle. But if
you insisted on marking intervals along the masculinity slider for measurement purposes,
I think you’d find that, in aggregate at least, most of us would probably
register at around 5 on a 1-10 scale. Regression to the mean.
Why does that matter? It matters because people in the
majority like to pretend that minorities do not exist—or, at the very least,
that their existence as minorities makes them less-than-worthy or
less-than-real or less-than important. But remember: in a distribution, even the extremes help to define the mean. And remember: so very, very much of life on
earth falls into these distributions. For any set of values clumped around a
mean, there are always tails at either end. They are not weirdos or
deviants or wrong. They simply represent the tails—they are people with certain
traits expressed less often than others within a particular population. But they are
expressed. They are part of the data set. They are part of us. They help
define us. They belong.
And I’ll repeat this thought as well: the mean is simply an aggregate
of traits and behaviors. Go searching for the individual person who is a
perfect representation of the average of all traits--Mister Perfectly Average Man, and you’ll come up with an
empty set. There is no perfectly-averagely-masculine man. If masculinity were
made up of 100 separate traits, none of us would register at-the-mean 100
times. We’d be a little to the left here, a little to the right there, a little
further out in some areas, a little closer in for others. As individuals, we
are all over the map—and yet, so many of us are terrified of allowing ourselves
to vary.
There are as many ways to be a man as there are men. There is no box. There is no fucking box. We need to just stop.
We need to let some air in and let each other breathe.
Friday, March 3, 2023
Teaching for the Stretch
I wrote this eBook for Catapult Learning in 2015 on the importance of flexible thinking, better teacher-questioning, and the need to "play with your food" as a student.
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ZSnsAQ09jywWWr4rSR1xThDLhubRfI4F/view?usp=sharing
Friday, February 17, 2023
Tinkering with the Text
This is a repost of an article I wrote for the Achieve3000 online magazine in November of 2020. The magazine appears no longer to be available online, so I thought I'd post it here for quasi-posterity. It focuses on topics covered in earlier of my blog posts and in PD sessions and keynote speeches I used to deliver under the umbrella title, "Teaching for the Stretch."
“Believe me, my young friend, there
is nothing–absolutely nothing–half so much worth doing as simply
messing about in boats.”
Kenneth Graham, The Wind in the Willows
We all want our students to read and grapple
with interesting texts, but how do we know whether a text we assign will be
interesting …whatever that means? Do we look at the topic? The genre? The
author’s use of language? The font size?
Well, all right…maybe not font size. But what can
we rely on? What do we do when only some of our students (or none of them!) are
engaged by the material we bring to them? Some people argue that we need to
change the curriculum to make it more relevant to our students. Others argue
that we need to make the students care more about the curriculum we already
have. Don’t read this book; read that book. Don’t cover this topic; cover that
topic.
It can be incredibly difficult to find reading
content that is equally compelling and fascinating to every single learner in
your classroom. But looking for that single, magic text is actually a mistake.
The fact is, nothing in this world is inherently, by-it’s-very-nature
interesting. Things are interesting only to the extent that we bring our
curiosity to them. Our investment of interest is what makes things interesting.
This means, I think, that ANY piece of text can
be compelling; it all depends on what we do with it, and what we let students
do with it. When students see a text as a series of tasks to complete—an
assignment that well-behaved students will comply with, regardless of how they
feel about it…well, just writing those words makes me feel depressed. But it doesn’t have to be that way. We can
move from compliance to compelling—from chore to play.
When I say “play,” I don’t mean that we need
to gamify our lessons (again, whatever that means). I mean that we can find meaningful
things for students to explore and tinker with in a text—opportunities to play
with language, with structure, and with ideas, instead of simply responding to questions.
As the historian, Johan Huizinga, writes, everything we think of as culture
originates in some form of play. We are homo ludens—a species that
learns through play. The statistician and author, Nassim Nicholas Taleb, says
much the same thing in his book, Antifragile: our
understanding of the world comes first from tinkering, and only later from
scholarship. For us as educators, a text can be more than a thing to read and
respond to; it can be a playground for students to mess about in.
The Accordion
Are you aware of how many fractions exist between the
numbers 1 and 2? The answer is: an
infinite number. Even if you only divided things in half, you could go own
halving numbers forever: first between 1 and 2, then between 1 and one-half,
then between 1 and one-quarter, then between 1 and one-eighth…on and on it
goes, literally forever, into the inconceivably infinitesimal. A number line
can be an accordion, opening up and playing notes you’ve never heard before.
Can a text work like this? I can’t claim a news article can be
plumbed infinitely, but there is certainly more in even the simplest piece of
writing than most of us tend to make use of. There is abundant raw material to explore
and play with, from the whole text to an individual paragraph, to a single sentence
and even a word. When you’re working with students on a text within Achieve3000
Literacy or ActivelyLearn, there is almost no limit to what you can do with it.
The Whole Enchilada
Thinking about the text as a whole is where many teachers
focus their attention: what is the article or story about? What is the main
idea? What is the tone? When we dig into details, it’s often to evaluate in
what ways, and how successfully, they support the main idea.
If we wanted to give students opportunities to tinker with
the text at this holistic level, what are some things we could do?
One of my favorite ways to get students to understand a text is to do what I call, “changing the givens.” Changing or removing some underlying fact or structure of a text can sometimes help students understand the importance of that structure or fact. Here are a few examples at this whole-text level:
- If this text had to be 20% longer for some reason, what could you add to it, to improve it?
- If this text had to be 20% shorter for some reason, what could you take out, that wouldn’t detract from its power or effectiveness?
- If the piece has a definite viewpoint or perspective, how could you convey the same information from a radically different perspective? If it argues a particular point, how would you argue the opposite point (but make it feel like it was the same author, writing it)?
- Could you rewrite this text in a different genre, but keep the tone, main idea, and the important information intact? How would you transform this article into a story…or a one-act play…or a poem? What does the transformation tell you about the power of the genre in which the original was written?
The Paragraph
When we have students analyze non-fiction paragraphs, beyond
how they support the main idea of the article or essay, we usually ask them to look
at how the author supports and expands upon the topic sentence. What evidence
do they bring to bear? How well do they explain and use that evidence?
- Here are a few other interesting things you could have students do with paragraphs:
- Have students rewrite the paragraph as if it were meant for a younger (or older) audience.
- Have students rewrite the paragraph as if it were meant for an audience predisposed to disagree with the author.
- Have students try to support or defend the topic sentence with entirely different evidence or arguments than those the author provided.
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The Sentence
In my experience, sentences receive very little attention,
especially once basic grammar is taught. We focus on paragraphs, on essays, on
stories--and yet, the sentence is the real workhorse of any writing--the
smallest unit of an idea. Middle and high school teachers who struggle to have
students write more beautifully, or powerfully, or even cogently, often labor
to mark-up entire papers, when it’s really the inability to craft an excellent sentence
that lies at the heart of poor writing.
The “Sentence Composing” approach created by
Donald and Jenny Killgallon is one way to help students craft better sentences,
but why not also let students tinker and play with sentences they find in stories and articles they’re reading in school?
- What is your favorite sentence in the entire article? Why do you like it?
- Is this a good sentence? How do you know? What makes it “good?”
- Is it beautiful? Powerful? Why? Where does the beauty or power lie?
- How could the sentence be improved if it’s not very good?
- How could you improve the sentence with a single word, or with a single structural change?
- If it’s a compelling sentence, what words would you change, or what structure would you reorganize, to weaken its power?
- If you wanted to state the opposite idea, or make a contrasting argument, what would you write?
The Word
When we focus on individual words, it’s often to teach
students new vocabulary—words we’ve decided they need to know. We give them
definitions, or we ask them to look up definitions. We may ask them to write
sentences using those words. The approach is usually to take words at face
value and simply know them. But if we believe that real “knowing” comes
from playing and tinkering, what are some things we could ask students to do
with new words they encounter?
- What’s your favorite new or unusual word in the article? Why do you like it?
- How many different forms or versions of that word are there? How many different ways can it be used? Can you write a paragraph using EVERY form of the word?
- How many times can you use that word in conversation from now until our next class period? Keep track!
- Where does the word come from? (Here’s an online tool students can use to do that research).
- If you look at the origins of all of the words in a phrase or a sentence, how many different times and places contributed to that grouping of words?
Taking the World Out for a Spin
All of these activities and exercises take time, and
certainly no one is going to use all of them, all of the time. But if we want
students to own what they’re learning—to know things deeply and completely—we
need to give them opportunities to “mess about” with the content we’re giving
them.
After all, when you buy a Smartphone, you don’t just leave
it on the desk and say, “Well, there it is.” When you go shopping for a car,
you don’t simply look at the statistics and then hand over a credit card. You
take the car out for a test drive. You put it through its paces. You see what
it can do.
Our language has tremendous flexibility, beauty, and power.
Getting control of it, through fluent reading and confident writing, helps
students take control of their lives in innumerable ways. If we believe that
this language is a gift, we should treat it like any gift we give to children,
and encourage them to use it, abuse it, toss it around, bang it up a little
bit, and find out just what it can do.
Friday, February 10, 2023
Two Haiku
Point towards the deep source
Of mind of things of starlight
There is no thing there
Handwriting in smoke
Invisible evidence
Wind on the water